In honor of Valentine’s Day and the release of “50 Shades of Grey,” (oh heck yes!) I figure it’s a good time as any to talk about sex.
We all want more of it (don’t lie), and I have a formula to help you get there.
It starts with your bedroom, and it does not require buying expensive lingerie or scented candles.
Follow these simple tips, and, I promise, you will be on your way.
1. Your bedroom should be an oasis. That means, it should be painted a soothing color. No orange or hot pink. There should be very little furniture in there. Two rocking chairs? A grandfather clock? A massive armoire you hate? Kids’ toys in the corner? Get rid of them or move them elsewhere in the house. Think about how you feel walking into a really nice hotel room. (I’m talking Umstead or here.) You should feel the same way when you walk into your bedroom.
2. The bed should be the main focus. I love a big bed. I have a California-King bed with lots of pillows and blankets. Go all out decorating your bed. With little else in the room, it will not look cluttered.
3. There should be nothing under your bed. I mean absolutely nothing. Stuff under the bed collects dust, causes stress and zaps all the va-va-voom from the bedroom. Even if it’s in a nice plastic container, remove it. If you can’t find a space for it, call me, and I will find a space for it.
4. No TV in the bedroom. Otherwise, you are watching “Law & Order” reruns instead of focusing on the real action. Plus, a big TV just adds more clutter.
5. Pick up clothes every day. No draping on a chair or leaving on the floor. Get rid of that chair anyway.
6. Make your bed every day. Why do you have to pick up clothes and make the bed? Trust me. When you walk into a clean room with the bed made, you instantly relax. No wine necessary.
7. No papers of any kind in the bedroom, including receipts, mail and especially work. That goes for technology devices, too. Every night, I plug in my iPhone in the kitchen. It does not come back to the bedroom. Find another spot to keep paper and technology.
8. Your closets should be immaculate. There should be nothing on the floor. Your clothes should fit neatly and hung in an orderly fashion. If your closet is a mess, again, that adds to bad energy. Purge, purge, purge. My closet is so nice, I took off the doors, so I can see it every day.
If you get rid of most of the stuff in your room, (and, yes I am talking a substantial amount,) I promise the opportunity you are wishing for will present itself often.
Of course, I can only lead you to the water. You have to take it from here.
Happy Valentine’s Day!