I tell my clients the memory is not the in the stuff. Take a picture of it and give the item away — your mom’s lime green maternity dress she gave you, old dishes that you never use, your shoes from the third grade.
I have never, however, told anyone to give away their wedding dress unless they are divorced. It’s bad energy to keep the dress around if you are no longer married, especially if you are looking to move on.
This month, though, I was going to challenge myself and give away my wedding dress. I believe if it’s to be, it’s up to me. In other words, if I ask clients to purge and organize, I should be able to give up stuff I no longer wear or need. (Want to know how serious I am about purging? It’s in my contract that the client must be willing to purge during our session.)
Why would I want to give away my wedding dress? I am still happily married. (Don’t worry.) We celebrated nine years last month. But the wedding dress I wore for no more than eight hours is sitting preserved in an oversized box, taking up a lot of room. I will never wear it again. And while I have a daughter, the chances of her being a munchkin like I am are slim. I am 5′. Her daddy is 6’2″. You do the math. And will she really want a dress from 2004?
I asked Jillian the intern to research where I could donate the dress. She found Wedding Dress on Call, which is a Fort Bragg-based charity that provides wedding gowns for military brides at no cost. (Love!) There is also the Mary Madeline Project, which takes used wedding dresses, bridesmaids gowns and prom dresses, and turns them into burial gowns for babies who have died (mostly premies), so grieving parents don’t have to shop for an outfit to bury their baby in. (Take a minute to cry here.)
Despite this, I just can’t seem to give away my dress yet. I loved my dress, mostly because it had a huge train, just like the dress Princess Dianawore in 1981 to marry Prince Charles. In fact, that is all I wanted for my wedding dress — a huge train just like Di’s. I loved that dress.
I have not totally given up on the idea. I will keep thinking about it and get back to you. In the mean time, don’t fret. I am still purging clothes, toys, anything we no longer use. Because, after all, I practice what I preach.