I love George Straight’s song “All My Ex’s Live in Texas.”
(Yes, I am a closeted country music fan.)
The song goes on to say, “All my ex’s live in Texas, that’s why I hang my hat in Tennessee.”
Which leads me to my question, where does your ex live?
If you are divorced or broken up, do you still have his stuff in your house? Do you still have the china and the crystal you registered for with your ex-husband? Do you have his shirts? His mother’s dresser?
I say all the time having too much stuff stifles opportunities.
But if you are hanging on to your ex’s things, you are exponentially cutting off opportunities. It’s worse than regular stuff because there are even more emotions around it. Even if divorce led to a better life for you, it’s still a trauma.
And it’s time to let that stuff go. (Heck, I am still married and sold our wedding china because we never used it. There it is at Replacements, Ltd.)
Every one of my clients who has been single and looking for a new love found someone shortly after I partnered with them.
I realize that not every single person is looking for a new relationship. But you are looking for something — a new job, a new energy, a new you. And you will find it when you get rid of your ex’s things.
Of course, if you love the vase you bought together at the art gallery in Hawaii, and it brings good memories for you, keep it.
But I would invite you to get rid of most things that attach you to him.
If you really want to move on, you must create room for new things to show up. A closet crammed full of his stuff tells the universe you are not available — for anything.